What should Western women be aware of when dating Arab men?
I can remember when my syrian man started showing interest in me and i was frantically searching for answers on google of what a syrian man is like so here is my version…
You not married, but having s e x? His using you for s e xual gratification only.
He lets you wear what you want including full make up in public. His not serious again just using you for selfish gain.
You have not met his family or seen pics. He is just not that serious and wants to have fun.
Why I say this, because a muslim arab man is not allowed to date. It must be halal (approved of by God). So what is it like during the getting to know each other stage, because it cant count as dating right…well here’s my version.
He will always drop everything when you around and give you his undivided attention.
He will make sure you are never alone because the third person in the room will be shaytaan (satan) so he will always meet you in public and girl he won’t even hold your hand so don’t even think about getting close to him. Has to be halal remember.
He will start sharing personal information, stories, pictures of family.
He will encourage debating to see your mentality and see if you think similar ways.
He will bring on an arguement to see how you will respond to him then and in the future when you married. Our first argument was about make up and he wanted me to start wearing less of it in public. Lol.
He will ask you to dress more modestly, because he wants a woman that is private and not public aka same as the make up. Just keep in mind this is in public. In private you can dress like a hooker lol. So give and take worked for me.
He will ask you to stop hugging and talking to your male friends. Yip all contact. No more male friends (if you western).
No alcohol, no parties and no clubs (if you western) so as a first “date” test see what happens when you mention the pub. In islam its actually not permissible to sit at a table where people are drinking, this will show you if his a god fearing respectful of women kind of man.
If you not muslim he might debate religion with you and would want to share more of islam with you.
He will be very protective over you and super jealous if a guy even looks your way.
His family will know about you before you even know about them. (Must be the approval thing, my family in law was only to happy for him to get married as he declined all their possible marriage proposals.)
You will feel so loved and cared for you will never doubt his feelings towards you.
He will know if your a good fit for marriage way before you even think of having him as your husband.
What to expect after marriage?
14. You need to learn his culture, his language.
15. Cook his culture food.
16. Your children will have arabic names.
17. Fridays are family days (where all the family get together usually the mother’s house or each family member takes a turn).
18. You can wear less modesty around his sisters and mom, but more modesty when his brothers or other male family members are present. Yes even in your own home.
19. You are the queen of the house, yes you can work as long as it fits around school runs and does not interfere with family time or looking after the kids while his at work. (Good option if you hate housework, just pay a cleaner to get the housework done if he refuses to pay, he is not allowed to tell you what you can or cant do with your hard earned cash its not halal.)
20. The s e x is amazing and your pleasure always comes first.
21. He is loyal.
22. He puts you first as long as you put him first over the kids. Remember God made man and woman, not woman and children.
23. There is space for one man in the house and it aint you babygirl.
24. He will continue treating you like a princess as long as you continue showering him with love.
25. He might be impatient or rude when his stressed just like any other person. Don’t let his mood swings determine your attitude.
26. Couples that pray together, stay together. Even if i reverted and we pray rakats…i still take his hands in mind like the christian prayer and pray for us out loud when we go through tough times.
27. Marriage is hard work just like any other marriage and satan will put all his energy to break yours up.
